The Mommy Vortex describes the tornado-like whirlwind that sucks moms-to-be up into the world of Babyland, in contrast to the dust devil swirling around dads-to-be. An essential lesson for dads-to-be that we’ve learned from experience is:
Lesson 1: She Will Get Way Out In Front Of You
Seeing the blue dot launches your partner on a steep trajectory of physical, emotional, sexual, career, and lifestyle change. She begins contemplating a wide range of issues: the kind of mother she will be, her career, your marriage, her body, her friends, the birth, what her baby will be like, and the kind of father you will be.
She starts soaking up all the media directed at her, signs up for classes and buys and reads books - usually lots of them.
Dads-to-be; not so much. And no matter how much you are doing to get ready, she is doing – and enduring - a lot more. She thinks about the kind of father you will be and then wonders why you are not interested in her books.
It is just the way it is. Periodically open her month-by-month pregnancy manual, find the month she is in and pick out something to ask her about. She’ll be impressed.
Be sure to come back over the following weeks for The Mommy Vortex: Lessons 2 and 3.