You already know that this is not your father’s fatherhood. What you may not appreciate is that there’s never been a better time to become a dad. Today more than ever, men have the opportunity to be a bigger part of their children’s lives and they’re taking advantage of it.
As the founder of Boot Camp for New Dads, I’ve watched these changes take place for over two decades. It used to be unusual to see a father holding his baby, let alone be out alone with her. Now I see them all over the place, and with this, the notion of the father being a secondary parent or an assistant mom is on its way out.
One of the big changes taking place is that we fathers are talking to each other more. We’re finding that we’re in this together – sort of brothers (with babies)–in-arms and are looking to each other more and more for grounded advice. So to share a few of the points that the thousands of new dads coming to the workshops have stressed . . .
- As men, we bring strength, practicality and adventure to being dads, along with a long list of other unique and indispensable parenting traits.
- In the months after the birth, your mate will form a whole new perspective of you as the father of “her” child. Use this opportunity to strengthen your relationship by getting involved with your baby from the beginning.
- Trust your instincts. A lot of what you need to know comes naturally. Comfort your baby, give him a bath, let him fall asleep on your chest and in a week or two, you’ll start feeling like a natural.
And if you have any particular questions about being a dad, ask us. Chances are, there’s a lot of other guys out there wondering about the same thing. So let’s keep the conversation going – because after all, that’s why we’re here.