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How to Help Mom Get a Job After Baby


As a child I was always had my mother and father around, both worked and took care of my sister and me. Also on top of that they were able to have the house clean and food on the table. I now have a son and my son’s mother and I are living together. I have a great job as far as benefits goes, but the pay is not so great to live off of one income with a baby. Most people say the baby is much better when the mother stays home and even though I would love for her to be a full-time, stay-at-home mom, we just can't afford it.

She is looking for work, but she really does not have any work experience. She has a few retail jobs she worked before we had our son, but the quality of her interviewing skills are really poor. I really need her help with the income, but she is reluctant to have me help her on the proper way to get a job. I've taken course on how to prepare for interviews, but when I try to explain or give her info on how to sell herself in an interview it just becomes a big argument.

How do I get her to understand that if we do not get a second or third income we will lose everything?


Very tough one. A lot of mothers who work have to for family income needs, not because they want to, and no real difference in how their kids turn out has emerged.

You might turn the family budget over to her to handle so she can see the numbers and how ends just aren't meeting on only your income. A simple spreadsheet for the family budget on which you both can forecast your income and family expenses by month is a good way to start. (Here are some templates from Google.)

It sounds like she is willing to look for a job, but she does need some help, but isn't being receptive. Sometimes even constructive comments, coming from a positive place, when said by those closest to us can sound like criticism and judgment, so removing yourself form the equation might help her take the advice she needs to be successful. Is it possible for her to take the same class on interviewing that you did? If the class isn't an option, is there a friend or family member she turns to for advice that she could practice interviewing with? Maybe sending her some YouTube videos from others on interviewing tips would be helpful too.

Good luck.

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