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Dad’s Role After a C-Section










QUESTION:

My wife is having a C-section (Caesarean section) and I am assuming will be in the hospital for 3 days minimum.

We live less than 10 minutes from the hospital and I was wondering what is expected of the father? I was planning on staying the first night, but after that, I thought that I would go home to sleep at night.

I want to be supportive, but I am not sure I really need to be there at night? Just looking for some advice.




ANSWER:

Since you live so close, going home one night might make sense if it is the only place you can get some sleep (since you will need it), but maybe not, so take it one day at a time.

A C-section presents a great challenge and opportunity to a father because mom will be out of commission for a week, and dad has to do it all. This means totally hands-on with your baby under the guidance of the experts - the nurses - for 3+ days (other guys only get 1), then showing mom how to care for the baby at home (a major boost to her confidence in you).

This also means you're hitting a confidence (in yourself) threshold in 2 weeks that takes other guys 2 months, not to mention the bonding thing with your baby (knowing you deliver when your child needs you is the ultimate confidence threshold for a father).

This "get thrown into the deep end of the pool" approach to the first week of your new career as a dad is highly recommended, as it is the fastest way to get up-to-speed and connected with your kid, get ahead of the curve with a new mom (the major challenge for a new dad), and transform into a man who feels like a father. So other than the no sleep thing for a week, its all great.

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